I’m Sorry I Missed Your Party, I Couldn’t Get Out of Bed

You might have noticed, I’ve been really quiet for the last few months.

Aside from a few recent emails…I sort of went MIA on social media, the blog, our newsletter. Of course, all that’s changing with the gear up to Reinvention Summit 2 coming this April.

What you probably don’t realize is that I’ve been sick.

Really sick.

And aside from my closest friends, family, and colleagues – I haven’t been very public about it.

Until now.

It’s time for you to know — because “it’s taught me important lessons about storytelling.”

Please share and add a comment

We all sometimes hit a wall or face a setback. It forces us to make important choices, just like in any good story. I’d love to hear about yours.

Also, if you want to know more about what’s worked for my health (a night/day recovery), mention that in the comments too. If enough of you find holistic health/geek stuff interesting, I’ll lay out my entire regimen and protocol in a follow-up post. Want to know about my regenerative health regimen? Let me know in the comments.

In case you missed my email last week, I’ve put together a free 5-part video series on storytelling. In the 2nd video, you’ll learn about the V-factor, the most overlooked element in storytelling today. Watch the videos, and you’ll be in the loop for Reinvention Summit 2, our big virtual conference, coming April 16-20. 


Join us for StoryU Online: Undeniable Story — an 8-week program where you learn our six-step storytelling framework. Begins Oct 6!

  • http://www.opheliaswebb.com Elisa Doucette

    I was diagnosed with fibro when I was 19 years old. I’ve had those days, weeks, months when I couldn’t bear the thought of lifting my arm to curl down deeper in the comforter. Good to hear you are finding your groove, hope you continue to gain strength and perseverance.  :)

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Elisa – I’m always amazed to find out people from the ages of 17 to 60 who are or have suffered from fibro. Thanks for sharing your own story on this. You inspire me.

  • Mankul65

    The video did not play.Not sure what your illness is or was.Here’s to wishing you a speedy recovery.

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Sorry to hear you had trouble with the video. I’ve been sick with chronic fatigue/fibromyalgia. And thankfully on the mend. Appreciate your kind wishes.

  • julie doane roberts

    heya michael ~

    i can’t believe what i just read in this post because it’s just TOO similar to what i’ve been through the past few months. it’s almost like you wrote the post i was going to write about my experience. alas, i’m totally interested to learn more about the health stuff you mention as i am currently tweaking my daily protocol in order to heal.

    the more we heal, the better we can serve the world – makes it very important to heal ourselves!

    to our health!
    julie

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Oh Julie, I am so so sorry to hear. Yet grateful that my sharing my help another. I will post more soon on the whole regimen. 

      One of the biggest keys that unlocked things for me was reading Dr Jacob Tietelbaum’s book From Fatigue to Fantastic. http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1583332898/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=getstoried-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=1583332898

      Tietelbaum is the leading pioneer MD in chronic fatigue/fibro research, and he’s developed a clinically proven protocol called SHINE – Sleep, Hormones, Infections, Nutritition, and Exercise. This book saved my life, and the life of many others. 

  • Lisa M.

    Glad you’re feeling better, Michael! Best of luck and thanks for updating us. 

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Thanks Lisa! Appreciate the kind wishes

  • vIVIANN

    You need more chocolate Michael!!

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      I’m on chocolate rations. LOL. But I do eat some raw chocolate on many days. Alas, no more sugar for me.

  • http://reikihelp.com/blog Pamir | Reiki Help Blog

    If Reiki was not part of your regimen, I strongly suggest you make it so. It’s not as simple as that, as I’m sure you’ve realized, but for starters including Reiki is huge. Good on you for making this an opportunity to understand and change.

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Thanks Pamir. Have been getting lots of support from doctors, healers, and my own self-care. Grateful to know you’re out there sharing the gifts of Reiki.

  • Bill Gibeault

    Hope your feeling better.  Life is short.  Enjoy the fruits now.

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Thanks Bill. I’m working on less struggle, less frenzy, and more juicy fruits (metaphorically speaking). 

  • Darcy

    So glad you are on the mend, Michael.  I am very much interested for you to share your health regimen!

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Hey Darcy, thanks I’ll definitely share more on this very soon. Oh Julie, I am so so sorry to hear. Yet grateful that my sharing my help another. I will post more soon on the whole regimen. 

      One of the biggest keys that unlocked things for me was reading Dr Jacob Tietelbaum’s book From Fatigue to Fantastic. http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1583332898/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=getstoried-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=1583332898

      Tietelbaum is the leading pioneer MD in chronic fatigue/fibro research, and he’s developed a clinically proven protocol called SHINE – Sleep, Hormones, Infections, Nutritition, and Exercise. This book turned things around for me, and has saved the life of many others. 

  • http://twitter.com/LivProof Living Proof

    So happy to hear you’re well on the mend, Michael. Thank you for extracting these important points from your experience about story, life, choices, focus and support. Really good reminders. Here’s to continued good (great) health.

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Thanks brother! There’s always a story in there isn’t there. ;-) Amazed at all the stories others are sharing as well. 

  • http://playfulvisionary.blogspot.com/ Lauri

    Yes, please post your health regimen. So glad you are on the mend and here’s wishing you a total recovery in every way.

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Hey Lauri, thank you. I will definitely share more on the health regimen very shortly.

  • http://www.facebook.com/achopelas Anastasia Chopelas

    Hi Michael, Sorry to hear you’ve been way under the weather since we saw each other in Rancho Bernardo.  I had a period of time where I had two good hours a day, if that.  I was a single mom raising two children with a full blown career and household, and barely enough money to make ends meet.  So, I can totally identify.  So good you found some good doctors and healers, and more importantly are feeling great again. Good health care was the critical component to my recovery as well, which is why I’m here trying to help other people get healthy too.  I would be very interested in hearing about your regimen as my 25 yo son has fibro.  He got it when he was 14 and is managing it but the pain is never gone.  Best wishes, Anastasia

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Hi Anastasia, Great to reconnect since that magical time in Rancho Bernardo. 

      I really feel for your son. It breaks my heart when I hear of young ones getting fibro. I’ll write extensively on my regimen very soon. One of the biggest keys that unlocked things for me was reading Dr Jacob Tietelbaum’s book From Fatigue to Fantastic. 

      http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1583332898/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&tag=getstoried-20&linkCode=as2&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=1583332898Tietelbaum is the leading pioneer MD in chronic fatigue/fibro research, and he’s developed a clinically proven protocol called SHINE – Sleep, Hormones, Infections, Nutritition, and Exercise. This book saved my life, and the life of many others. His supplements are great too. He also has a great book called Pain 1,2,3 for dealing with intricacies of fibro issues. Will share more soon. 

  • Deirdre Walsh

    HI Michael,  Thanks a million (or 14 million) for being so honest and vulnerable with your story.  I think a lot of people with CFS and fibromyalgia are very reluctant to share their story. I was laid up on my *ss last year for three months last year.  It’s frightening, humbling and deeply life changing.  What got me through was deeply understanding that each moment was not connected to any other and that feeling terrible one day didn’t mean anything about the next day.  

    I’d love if you would share your health regimen. As I feel better I tend to try to fit into my family’s routine and stray too far from what keeps me healthy.

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      It took me a while to be ready to share this publicly. I’m humbled by how many of us have all gone thru similar challenges. I love your perspective on being present and knowing that this too shall pass. Beautiful Deidre.

  • Alisa W.

    Glad you’re feeling better, Michael. Taking care of yourself so important, and yet, it’s the easiest thing to put on the back burner. Hope you keep on feeling better!

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Thanks Alisa. Being laid flat on your *ss is a great way to learn the lesson. Or not… ;-)

  • Lesleyl

    Hi Michael,
     
    I’d like to know about your regimen.  My mom was diagnosed with Fibro about 12 years ago.  It can be a day by day process.  Hang with it.  When she cut out sugar (which doesn’t go well with your love of chocolate!) she lost weight and felt great.  It cut out the number of times she felt like she couldn’t move and it got her back to her garden much more quickly.  Cheers!
    Lesley

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      I gave up sugar too. I eat a gluten-free, sugar-free, paleo diet. Still have some chocolate, but the raw bitter, unsweetened kind.

      I’ll write extensively on my regimen very soon. One of the biggest keys that unlocked things for me was reading Dr Jacob Tietelbaum’s book From Fatigue to Fantastic. 
      http://www.amazon.com/gp/produ… is the leading pioneer MD in chronic fatigue/fibro research, and he’s developed a clinically proven protocol called SHINE – Sleep, Hormones, Infections, Nutritition, and Exercise. This book saved my life, and the life of many others. His supplements are great too. 

  • Vipmatters

    Hi Michael,
    Welcome back Michael! I’m so glad you’re on the mend and have made friends with your body, so it can support you personally and help you to share your amazing gift with all of us and the world. Your story continues to touch me on so many levels, I’m so glad to know you and be part of the reinvention summit community.

    By the way, I’m always interested in knowing what doctors, methods people are using to recover from their health challenges.

    Lots of love, looking forward to all that comes next:-)

    Jan

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Thanks Jan, you’re kind words and presence always mean a lot to me. I’m definitely listening to that neglected old body of mine. :-) Will share more soon on the health regimen front. And can’t wait to cross paths again soon. 

  • http://twitter.com/WalterAkana WalterAkana

    Hey Michael!! Sorry to hear that you’ve been so ill!! And also happy to see you are recovering!! You look great!! Look forward to being more connected this year!! 

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Thank you Walter. On all fronts. Excited to be more connected with you and everyone in the Get Storied tribe.

  • http://twitter.com/leslieforman Leslie Forman

    So glad to hear you’re feeling better. I think your lessons about priorities are so true. I can definitely identify with your point about shiny object syndrome.

    Would love to hear about your new wellness regimen! Best wishes to you, all the way from Chile. 

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      we should start a support group for bright shiny object syndrome. ;-) Thanks for chiming in, all the way from Chile! So cool, Leslie.

  • http://twitter.com/JanSchochet Jan Schochet

    You look really great for all you’ve been through, Michael.   So glad you’re back on your feet.
    I hit a wall this January when  launch I was doing blew up in my face and not only didn’t go according to plan, it was just about as awful as could be technically and all that went along with that. 

    I stepped back to reevaluate a lot of what I was doing, hired my first employee (we can’t do it all ourselves) and will use this setback as an opportunity, not only for my growth, but a illustration in my materials to my business mentoring clients.

    (also, Saturn is retrograde in my sun sign–I do pay attention to the stars, too! For me, it’s a time to be slow, planning and boundary-setting, as you say, and detail oriented.)

    Thanks for sharing.

    And I DO want to hear about your geeked out health cures.

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Hi Jan, I can totally relate to disappointing plans that blow up in your face. And learning you don’t have to do it all yourself is pretty revolutionary (at least for this recovering “lone wolf”). And I’m totally with you when it comes to the stars. Planets vs Humans? Planets always win. hehehe

  • Penny Murphy

    Michael – Having lived with Chronic Fatigue for more than 22 years, I feel for you! Yoga has been a real help for me, but this a life-long condition that requires a lot of management and support, which seems daunting at first. I am looking forward to hearing about your regimen and am very happy to hear that you are on the mend and taking a very comprehensive and progressive approach to dealing with this affliction! Makes you realize that you are never totally in control of your life, no matter how smart or energetic, etc. you think you are. Your immune system always has the last word…

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Wow Penny! I soappreciate you sharing your own journey with Chronic Fatigue. I’ll share more about my regimen shortly. While it’s hard to admit, I’ve begun to look at my health as a gift, in that it created the boundaries and structure that was missing in my life. However painful receiving the memo has to be.

  • http://www.theculturecompany.com/ Alicia Korten

    Wow!  What a brave and wonderful story to tell.  I’m rooting for your full recovery and crazy success with new boundaries.  Loved getting the update and learning more about what you’ve been dealing with. Sorry it’s been a tough several months – keep up your great and beautiful spirit.

    Alicia 

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Thanks Alicia. Your words and presence mean a lot to me. I’m equally excited by the metamorphasis you’re going thru, birthing the Culture Company. Excited times all around.

  • http://www.PGFerals.Org/ LindaSaffell

    I helped set up and work now with a nonprofit that uses and promotes holistic care for animals (see http://www.holistichealthcareforpets.org ), and the amazing cures that this has let me see, made a believer out of me.  Looking forward eagerly Michael, to knowing what has worked for you.  And really happy to see you back and know you are healing!!

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Wow Linda, that’s beautiful work you do! My regimen has definitely ranged from the medical to the esoteric to the herbal to the physical. Will share more on this journey shortly. :-)

  • Clare M

    Hello Michael,
    your story is common to most professional storytellers, where the journey of the work comes before one’s own health.  Burn out is extremely common and most storytellers just keep going which results in their work suffering and living a life at a low level of energy for the rest of their lives (often resulting also in things like strokes, aneurysms etc).  I don’t mean to overstate it, but I believe it is rather important.  So well done for figuring yours out.

    I hit the wall last year, and had to stop and just lie down for a while.  I had to learn to say No as you did to many wonderful opportunities.  BSOS (Bright Shiny Object Syndrome) is another thing common to these modern times; a disease that makes us want to do and see everything.  But alas BSOS does not allow us to do any one thing well.  It keeps us moving erratically and simply burns out the mind, this in turn leaves our bodies neglected.

    When I hit the wall I realised that my health and wellbeing were the only things worth looking after, and so I have changed the rate at which I work, what I agree to and I factor in down time far more than I used to.
    Storytelling is a compelling career, it keeps me busy and inspired.  But unless I have a healthy mind and body I cannot remain inspired or creative.

    Good luck on the next leg of your journey,
    Clare

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      So true Clare. Your comment makes me think of the Chiron story, the wounded healer that so many of us as storytellers carry in our hearts. Thank you Clare. Your comments touch my heart.

  • http://crystalsilver.com Crystal Silver

    Glad you’re feeling better. I’ve actually been weathering my own very similar health storm, and I’ve been learning similar lessons myself. After months of very little social participation and zero forward movement of a relaunch, I’m getting ready to jump back into view. But this time, I’m planning a much healthier boundary structure and many fewer activities that aren’t directly essential to my core message.

    I’ve learned a lot about holistic health, energy medicine, and mind-body issues. I’ve mostly figured out what works for me, but I’m still interested in hearing what’s working for you. There’s always more to learn from different perspectives.

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Thank you Crystal. I so appreciate hearing how we’re on a common journey. I will definitely share more on my healing regimen next week.

  • http://twitter.com/Vicki_Kunkel Vicki Kunkel

    Your story is a great reminder to us all about setting priorities.  Nothing–not money, not a business, not trying to please others, not “reaching for the brass ring”–is more important than your health.  

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      a big giant game of choices, isn’t it? :-) Thank you Vicki

  • Aarsic

    I have the same. Then found out that, as many diagnosed with CFS and Fibromyalgia, that I had chronic Lyme disease and co-infections. I am glad you are on the mend, Lyme disguises itself from doctors (CDC) as MS, CFS, and worse. Recommend checking the short film Under Our Skin.

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Wow Aarsic. It’s quite the web to untangle isn’t it? I’ll check out the film.

  • JimHopkinson

    Hi Michael

    Thanks so much for sharing your story. As I enter life as a solopreneur myself, this is very helpful as I am overwhelmed with wanting to do everything all at once. I am extremely excited about all this and it is a good thing to wake up every day chomping at the bit to get to work, but it is a great lesson that I need to find balance as well.

    Hearing your story also makes me even more thankful that during this process you took the time to speak at my conference even though you were cutting back on so many things. It meant a lot then, and means even more now.

    Thanks

    Jim

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Hey Jim, you’re my brother. We got to stick together. I continue to learn how to move beyond struggle and frenzy as false beliefs of entrepreneurship. It’s a lot to de-program and we need each other’s support in the process.

  • Mike Hudson

    Michael, Why does it take a microbe, virus, chemical imbalance or in my most recent case – a torn tendon to bring us all back the the ultimate truth; life is short (fragile), so do the best you can with it while you’ve got it? Sounds like you have made a full recovery and are once again, ready-to-rip. (Poor choice of words on my part – I still have four to six months of physical therapy to look forward to, but my Doc tells me that once that is done, I’ll feel like I did when I was 58 again.) I would like to see your regimen. Mine is easy – hire a kid to shovel your driveway after the next big snow storm. Thanks for the video’s, looking forward to the Reinvention Summit. Stay Well.

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      LOL, Mike, you crack me up. I like you’re hiring strategy. It’s funny how indeed we need those hard slaps to wake up. 

  • Sally Strackbein

    Michael: I am so glad you are on the mend. Ray and I have had a not so nice journey since the beginning of November when Ray landed in the hospital, had surgery and was told he has lymphoma. A sad journey with bright moments. Times like these are when you see the best in humanity. People we didn’t expect have popped up and shown up. For introverts like us, asking for help has not come easy, but we’ve stretched and it’s been so worth it. Like you, we expect Ray to recover. Love to know what’s working for you. Again, welcome back. –Sally

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Sally, thank you. I am so sorry to hear of Ray’s health struggles, and ever grateful that he too is on the mend. Your presence individually and as a couple always warm my heart. Sending Ray lots of healing mojo. He’s lucky to have you. And we are too. 

  • Ashley Nialetz

    As soon as you started talking…I had an idea what you were going to say…I was recently diagnosed with Lupus….something often closely related, so i feel you, and glad you have found something that works for you :)
     

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Oh Ashley, I’m so sorry we’re on this journey together. Wishing you a speedy recovery.

  • Rachael_williams62

    Michael, It is a wonderful feeling to know ones health is being restoried and we can get on with our life. I have been so tired for months now, and recovering from advanced stages of lung cancer. This is a smokers thing usually but I never smoked. With the best of doctors and my positive attitude, I will be back to good health. I pray you will continue to have the best of health and enjoy your work. I will be interested in all stories about your health and medicines.

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      I’m so touched by the healing crisis so many of us are going thru, and the strength that comes in our ability to restory our lives. Thank you Rachael. Sending you healing vibes.

  • http://twitter.com/theYucrew Pattie Yu

    What matters? You matter! Next time let me know and I’ll be knockin’ at your door with organic chicken soup. You sure fooled me. My awakening came after major life health challenges and then getting to work with the lovely folks at The Bravewell Collaborative who espoused the importance of integrative medicine and the benefits of mind-body-spirit in the context of community. 

    Looking forward to giving you a hug on Monday. 

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Thanks Pattie. You email virtual chicken soup on a regular basis, and always make me smile. See you Monday

  • http://www.facebook.com/pauljlamb Paul Lamb

    Thanks for being open and honest about your own story Michael. Keep it real, including your health!

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Thanks brother Paul! 

  • Michael A Vanderosen

    Hi Michael… very glad to hear that you’ve overcome the effects of the SteamRoller that comes around every so often in some of our lives (there’s a story there.. for another time, as Kipling would say!)… Congratulations for finding the strength and resourcefulness to get healing/health support and recognising the inherent lesson in having been an over enthusiastic, over-determined ‘shiny object’ collector and a must-do-it-all do-er!  

    I’ve had similar but different burn-and-crash experiences that led to self-blame/shame/pity and eventually chronic depression… happily I overcame the affliction symptoms and cause (also with a huge amount of help from friends, healing practitioners and the ‘will-to-heal’ … but it took longer to spot, re-view and evaluate the deeper unconscious drives that got me into the firing line and the fire in the first place.  I’ve led a very colourful and roller-coaster life in many guises and disguises… I eventually discovered, somewhat ruefully, that it’s often the person who wants to be a healer (or whatever) to help others… who one day discovers, often painfully, that the reason they got into it was because it is they themselves who needed the help more than most! I’m a case in question… this may or may not resonate for you. 

    However as I’m always interested in how other people cope with and rise above adversity and illness I’d love to know more about your regimen. In return please feel free to check out my website: michaelvanderosen.com  …if I can ever be of help in any of your projects please do not hesitate to contact me! 

    In the meantime I wish you well with your ongoing quest for health, happiness, peace of mind and creative fulfilment… I’m sure you’ll soon be firing on all 6 cylinders and will find new, worthwhile ‘shiny objects’… and attend some of those parties again… albeit more selectively than before!   
    Best wishesMichael VanderosenPS … and you’re right …the ability to be/show Vulnerability is a most Valuable quality that betokens inner strength, empathy, humility and is a shining watchword of the wise – whether Storyteller or Quester! 

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Steamroller indeed. Love your website, the background image is magical. To our shared quest, MM

  • http://kate-mcnair.healthcoach.integrativenutrition.com/ Kate Mcnair

    Hi,

    my health crisis’s off and on over the last ten years have led me from being a designer to a new career as a holistic health & nutrition coach: http://kate-mcnair.healthcoach.integrativenutrition.com/ content in process and am loving learning about your work on story telling as thats what I am needing:) happy to hear you are well. Love your book! xo

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      I love your healing journey, reminds me of Chiron. Thank you Kate.

  • http://twitter.com/BethAdeleLong Beth Adele Long

    Thanks for the great video post. I’m really excited for you, in a strange way — excited to see how you use this transformation to do even bigger and better things, without stressing your body and soul in the process. My wake-up call was the big C, a cancer diagnosis at age thirty, and it really did wake me up. It was definitely an energy crisis, albeit a different format, and it forced me to look at the ways I was living and working unsustainably. Self-care is a matter of life or death, not an indulgence. I would love to hear about your healing process in more detail!

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Wow Beth! Thank you. I will definitely share more about the journey. Sounds like yours is full of wisdom too.

  • http://www.facebook.com/kathy.hansen Kathy Hansen

    Glad you’re feeling better. It’s really encouraging to hear that remedies are working for folks like you and Annette. My sister suffers from this condition.

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Thank you Kathy! I so appreciate your kind words.

  • http://twitter.com/kayross Kay Ross

    Hello Michael – I’m sorry to hear you were sick; happy to hear that you’re on the mend. Thanks for sharing your story. As well as being a marketing consultant/editor/copywriter, I’m also a healer, so I’d certainly be happy to hear about the regimen and protocol that has helped you get back on the road to health. It has been a joy connecting with you on twitter.

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      I’ve always felt communications and healing are related professions. Grateful to have your presence amongst our community Kay. I will definitely share more on my healing regimen.

  • http://profiles.google.com/shava23 Shava Nerad

    Hey, Michael!  I’ve enjoyed your work, and I’m sorry you got smacked down — but it can be a crucible that brings some wise lessons and tunes the storyteller in you!  I’ve been a storyteller my whole life I think, in everything I do.  On G+, my tag line is “memetic bard.” ;)

    Here’s part of my story of how I got sick, and part of what I’m doing to dig out, too.  Since I wrote this essay, I’ve been writing a business plan with the help of a couple friends (and the tentative promise of another to fund it, if I can show good numbers — which I can still put together in principle with a little assistance!).  My business plan is all about reviving the lost art and technology of millinery — hatmaking — here in New England. 

    Not only will I be reviving, but updating the technology, which hasn’t been touched in well over a century — milliners are still paying a handful of shipwrights thousands of dollars to carve individual hat blocks — the wooden molds upon which, say, a Stetson hat or bowler is formed from fine felt and live steam — from clear poplar wood. 

    Well, today, I can use a 3D milling machine, like a 3D printer, to make that block, or a Dr. Seuss hat made of “memory materials” instead of felt, or a hat made of the same film material as your iPhone screen with your choice of images, set in glove leather banding for durability and style, or a hat made of monofilament and fiber optics that seems to be suspended in air in the dark environment of a club.  And if we are successful, we’ll of course spread that back to the world. 

    But the tech updating also makes me able to set things up so a store can allow me to have you come in with a few friends, design a hat for yourself — crown, brim, band, ornamentation — think  “Build-a-Bear” for big people — with your friends giving advice on what’s exactly “you.”  And then you can watch and sip tea, if you like, after you select the feathers or the ribbon, or the leather band and all, as someone makes this hat that will be the only hat in the world just like it, or come back the next day.

    And if you want another hat, design it on your phone, and pick it up next week.

    I’m a former engineer, now a mad hatter with mad skills.  And I can paint a story that will draw people along with me.  That skill hasn’t left me, and it will carry me forward.

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Shava, we are so grateful to have a mad hatter and memetic bard amongst us. Thanks for sharing your healing path and creative mojo with you. Your technology sounds exciting. 

  • Lana

    Thank you for sharing such a deeply personal story. I’d love to hear about your healing secrets :-)

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Some healing secrets served up shortly!

  • Madelyn Blair

    It was Easter, 12 years ago, and I woke Monday morning unable to walk. After meeting with doctors in 8 different specialties, it was my Family Practice doctor who had taken care of me for over  10 years who knew how I handled difficulties and st to just filling in the gaps, leaving me to heal. It took 2 months before I could walk, 6 weeks of physical therapy, and weekly Pilates ever since to keep me on my feet and, as you know, dancing. My lesson was that the body is amazing if you let it do what it can while you only fill in the gaps. AND it requires on-going attention to what is happening to your body so that you learn to hear the tiny whispers it sends you. It has a story to tell you, but you sure have to listen all the time. 

    I’m so glad that you have found those who are helping you fill in the gaps. 

    Madelyn

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      The body tells a story. I love that Madelyn. Thank you for sharing your own incredible journey back to yourself. I so appreciate your support. 

  • Ali Abubakar

    Tell your story about any kind of ill-health and every Tom, Dick and Harriet wants to tell his or hers.

    Mine’s short, and here’s the brief. 2011 – one full year of depression … first time in all my seventy four years of fun-filled life.

    Pharmaceutical drug prescription plus six months of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. The latter, much welcomed and thoroughly enjoyed. Realised how I got myself into a mental mess I conned MM.

    2012 and it’s all well behind me. Looking forward to the next twenty one years of exciting maturation. So there you have it. Sounds great now, but wasn’t then.

    Wish you all well.

    Tell your story about any kind of ill-health and every Tom, Dick and Harriet wants to tell his or hers. Mine’s short, and here’s the brief. 2011 – one full year of depression … first time in all my seventy four years of fun-filled life. Pharmaceutical drug prescription plus six months of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. The latter, much welcomed and thoroughly enjoyed as I realised how I got myself into a mental mess I conned MM. 2012 and it’s all well behind me now. Looking forward to the next twenty one years of exciting maturation. So there you have it. Sounds great now, but wasn’t then.Wish you all well.
    Tell your story about any kind of ill-health and every Tom, Dick and Harriet wants to tell his or hers. Mine’s short, and here’s the brief. 2011 – one full year of depression … first time in all my seventy four years of fun-filled life. Pharmaceutical drug prescription plus six months of Cognitive Behavioural Therapy. The latter, much welcomed and thoroughly enjoyed as I realised how I got myself into a mental mess I conned MM. 2012 and it’s all well behind me now. Looking forward to the next twenty one years of exciting maturation. So there you have it. Sounds great now, but wasn’t then.Wish you all well.

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Ali, glad you found your way back home. We don’t wish these things upon anyone, yet they often can be a source of profound learning and growth.

  • http://twitter.com/IDSensitivity CarolinevanKimmenade

    I definitely recognize the struggle of realizing that even though we are limitless in spirit, we definitely have physical limitations that need to be honoured!

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      That’s a great way to put it Caroline. Infinite beings in a physical form, means we have limits. The limits, the thresholds, the edges are our teacher. 

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1072705073 facebook-1072705073

    Hey wonderful Michael — please remember to keep protecting yourself from Bright Shiny Object Syndrome!  When we re-birth ourselves through these exhaustions, it’s easy to start running as soon as we’re out of the womb….

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      so true. so true. I’m on the 12-step program with Bright Shiny Object Syndrome. You can all help me keep accountable.

  • http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=1072705073 facebook-1072705073

    oops, not sure why the site didn’t sign me in as myself… here I am with the below wishes, best, Suzanne

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      thanks Suzanne. Just seeing your smile makes me feel better.

  • Vincent Dickie

    Hi Michael. Very brave of you to share your story with us all. As people have related, many of us have been through similar experiences.

    My latest one was being hit by a car on my bicycle a week before Christmas (my fault, rushing home in terrible, rush hour traffic). I went through the windscreen and the impact on my leg severed an artery. It was two weeks before my wedding and amidst the rush of Christmas deadlines, etc.

    Laid flat and in hospital for two days, I certainly realised what seemed important wasn’t so. Most important was my health and the wonderful help I received from friends, colleagues and family. Those relationships were paramount and I just felty grateful.

    Some people would say ‘oh that’s terrible’, whilst others would say, ‘oh, jeez, you’re lucky to be alive’! The latter is how I felt-glad to be alive and now I’m 99% better -except for a few scars.

    Keep on your wellness path. I look forward to your health tips. Like yourself, I too can relate to the need to not being over-stimulated by ‘shiney objects’. Like my meditation teacher said ‘some people need to learn to step forward in the world, whilst others need to learn to step back at times’!
    All the best on your journey.

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Thank you Vincent for your comment, wisdom, and sharing. We are so grateful that you are alive and on the mend. And nice that you and I share a similar view on things, adversity is our ally. :-)

  • Suzi Banks Baum

    Dear Michael, I am so happy to see you feeling better. Sometimes health challenges are a time to re-boot with cleared out intentions. Right now my 17 year old hotshot son is 4 weeks in to a badly broken leg- broken not while racing, but in his warm-up. What I notice is he is taking this time to do things he might not otherwise do. Things that include long times to hang out with his parents and talk. Naps. Reading. Lots of music and staring out the window. I surely will never forget this time. Sorry it had to come via this accident, but like you and your illness, there is a certain depth of soul that comes from having to seriously care for your well being. 
    I have to celebrate you anyway Michael, because since we met and I only started The New About Me module with you, I have sprouted an idea that takes wing tomorrow. You can read all about it at http://www.outofthemouthsofbabes.org/. I am inspired to create space for women’s stories about mothering and creativity, I have a blog series running on my blog and tomorrow, a live event that is part of The Berkshire Festival of Women Writers. 
    I lay it at your feet. You urged me to figure out what I love, what it is about my life, my journey, my character that makes me me- and this is it. So thank you. 
    I hope you continue to feel better and better. I will hold you in my prayers.
    And, I hope we see each other at BlogWorld in June. I look forward to hugging you.
    With gratitude and much love, Suzi

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Congratulations Suzi. I’m thrilled to hear of your creative emergence, and to know our resources have played a small part in that proces. Hope your son gets back on his feet soon. Thanks for sharing here. 

  • Dellabeffa

    Yes, I’m interested in knowing your miracle health regimen. When I have been really sick, I discovered that the way to recover was not to fight sickness but to stop feeling sick.  At first it wasn’t easy, the health system is very powerful, and it’s easy to fall in that trap. With time, i got better at it, and my health got a lot better too.

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Such a beautiful metaphor Dellabeffa. Thank you. I’ll share my miracle regimen (LOL) next week.

  • Kristina Summers

    Thanks for sharing MIchael. It was brave of you to share your personal health trials. So many times people are afraid to admit they have to slow down, for any reason. I can certainly relate to your troubles as I too have been diagnosed with chronic fatigue and fibromyalgia.  Most of those who knew me a year ago as the never stop-for-a-moment-go-getter barely recognize me today. But I too have really learned the value of those things in my life that are most important. How ironic that it was during my own recovery that I discovered your blog and began down a new path helping others use storytelling in their teaching. Cool. Best wishes.

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      We are obviously on converging paths Kristina. Thank you. So glad you’re finding your groove back, slowing down, and discovering how we get to uncoil where the story goes. Excited to see what emerges next for you.

  • Richard Strickland

    Michael:  Good to hear you are feeling better.  I think I speak for everyone when I say we missed hearing from you these last few weeks.  I believe in giving credit where due and I want to thank you for being the chief instigator in helping me get motivated to “get storied.”  So far I only have the first chapter but I was  putting off writing it for a long time until I saw that video you posted about “getting storied.”  Now it seems like all that’s left to do is to write about what I postulated in the first chapter until I get enough pages to call it a book.  Do you plan on a video about the best way to find an agent to help get the book published?  

      

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Hey Richard, it definitely starts with the first chapter. And flows from there. Rock on! I’m not an expert on the traditional book publishing front. But Jennifer Wilkov is. Check out http://www.yourbookisyourhook.com. I self-published using http://www.createspace.com which was an awesome experience for a DIY-geek like me. 

  • Linda Ketterer

    Michael, thanks for your story and candor.  Will look forward to hearing about the steps you are taking to regain your health and perspective.  So glad that you have found a plan that is working and that you are excited about it.  Continue taking care of yourself — that is the only way any of us can ever hope to influence others in our lives.  You can’t dip from an empty well.

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      dip from the empty well. So well put. :-) Thank you.

  • layniek

    Great to hear your are back on your feet again.  Sometimes you just have to “do what has to be done”.  I sacrificed everything except the essentials when my husband was diagnosed with a rare bone marrow cancer after 12 months of marriage.  For 12 years I did what had to be done for him, for us.  I sacrificed me for I knew his time with me was not long.  With his passing I put on more weight.  3 years after his passing and clearing stuff, I focussed on me.  I put me back into my story.  I lost 30+kgs to win a bodybuilding competition.  Then I too got sick.  What was a minor mineral imbalance in my blood was caught so early luckily.  Easily treated but it’s taken time.  Again, doing what had to be done.  Business has suffered significantly as a result.  But here I go again.  Back training, creating my story, and rebuilding my life and business again.  Life is a choice to live by your design and on purpose. Thank you for the inspirations.

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      You are my inspiration! Thank you. Love how we are all re-storying our lives. 

  • http://www.wildwomannetwork.com SandraLeeSchubert, Get heard.

    Michael, sorry to hear you were not well. Glad to hear you are better. A “health crisis” forces one to  take stock in a real deep and urgent way. 

    Second story of crash and burn I have heard today. My issue is putting things together into a workable and sustainable lifestyle. However, I know more then a few people like me who had been puttering along in a reasonable life only to discover its not working any more. We hit a wall and now are all scratching our heads in confusion. It is one hell of a mid-life crisis. 

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      seems like a ripe time for reinvention, all around. thanks for sharing your honest truth.

  • http://www.facebook.com/shannansinclair Shannan Lyons Sinclair

    I really had missed you! I really was wondering where my email updates were from you. They have become valuable to me, so your absence was noticed.

    How srange your health crisis coincided with one of my own. I TOTALLY hit a wall physically right at the beginning of the year. More appropriately the wall hit me, slammed me to the ground and left me suffocating for two months. And how odd that it happened right as a was starting to feel a “peak” arriving. There was something in the timing of it I had to examine.

    I am so glad to have you back! And wish you well in your road to recovery.
    Namaste,
    Shannan

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Shannan, I missed you too. Thanks for letting me know. And we are definitely BACK, stronger than ever. It’s amazing how the twists and turns of life often play in the most unexpected of ways. Glad you’re finding your groove too. Thanks for ordering The New About Me today. Can’t wait to connect in our monthly coaching call.

  • http://twitter.com/KellyScannell Kelly Scannell

    Sweet Michael,

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      now you’re making me *blush*. Just realizing how much these moments of crash and burn are natural cycles of life, and key to the unfolding story that we’re all creating. Thanks for being a part of the journey. 

  • http://metascott.com/ Scott Walker

    A) So glad you’re on the mend, my friend, and B) would love to know more about your regimen. Looking forward to the next chapter in your story!

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Thanks Scott! Will definitely geek out shortly

  • http://www.wakefieldcommunications.com/ ML

    Nice to see and hear you’re back in the saddle Michael. 

    Hitting the wall is so much a part of everyone’s story if we’re willing to go there. For me it was recently being  told my position was eliminated suddenly and without warning. Wham!
    Like so many, I’m in the process of reinventing myself as a business storyteller and have started a blog I call StorythatMatters. As a result of that I’ve been invited to do a guest blog on a communications and PR website.And ya, it is a lonely pursuit which is why the Get Storied tribe is so important.I know lots of really smart, capable, passionate, hard working people who have hit their own walls and are in a reinvention phase so i think you are really on to something with the Reinvention Summit. This is an idea that resonates with people all over the world, even way up here in British Columbia, Canada.Take care of yourself Michael. 

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Michael, so sorry to hear of your recent layoff. Working with story is a fabulous pathway to expressing your truth and serving others in the process. Grateful to have your presence amongst us here. 

  • Kimberly

    Hi. I can completely identify with your story. I got really really sick back in October and was finally diagnosed with fibromyalgia in December. There were days I couldn’t get out of bed or barely walking. I completely understand. I have been through many different conventional medicines combined with acupuncture and massage once I got to the point of being able to handle being touched. I have taken this time to do a lot of soul searching. I ended up having to quit my job as a 7 1/2 year veteran police officer. I truly believe it was the universe’s way of telling me it’s time to move on to my life’s work. I have just recently started feeling improvement. I would love to hear what your regimen is to see if there is anything different that I can add to mine. I find that I get so tired so easily still so any suggestion for energy would be great. I take multivitamins and seaweed supplement and several others. I’m glad that you are feeling better. you are an inspiration to those of us that are still on our healing journey. my hands are aching as I type this. Blessings, love and light to you! –Kimberly

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Kimberly, you must read Fatigue to Fantastic by Dr Jacob Tietelbaum. He’s the leading pioneering MD on chronic fatigue/fibromyalgia, and has a clinically proven protocol he’s designed that makes a huge difference. His book and free online resources spell it all out. I’m going to detail it more in an upcoming blog post. 

  • rmsorg

    Michael, sorry to hear about your sickness!  But I’m glad you are doing better.  LOL on your bio, you might be interested in this -Eat more dark chocolate peepz it’s good for your heart! Dark Chocolate: Heart-Healthy Benefits – Watch WebMD Video http://bit.ly/xMj3Un

    Anyways, welcome back!

    RMSorg
    WallStreetBranding

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Thanks! I do still eat my chocolate, but just the raw kind, and a lot more moderation. ;-)

  • Sara

    Glad you feel better – I am definitely curious to know more as I have had Fibromyalgia for several  years. I don’t have any medical treatment, just force myself every day to get up and keep going!

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Sara, thanks for sharing your own struggle with us. I’m going to publish resources on fibro and chronic fatigue very shortly, and I do hope they are of support to you.

  • http://twitter.com/kdietz Karen Dietz

    So glad you are back Michael and doing better. Twice in my life I worked so hard I ended up flat on the floor with long recovery times.  Seems I had to learn that lesson more than once! Ouch :)

    I keep sending you many good thoughts along with joy and healing. Take care dude.

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Thanks Karen. This is my second too (oy!). String of blood clots and adrenal fatigue in my twenties. Guess this is the next layer of the story. Appreciate the kind words.

  • Kristi

    Hi Michael,
    My journey started 4 1/2 years ago when my then 5 year old daughter started having seizures.  Long story short, she was diagnosed with a very rare brain disease (Happy Rare Disease Day btw) called Rasmussen’s Encephalitis.  6 months later, she had a right hemispherectomy and three years of additional surgeries.  I am happy to report that as of last April, she has finally been seizure free but now has left-sided weakness (not unlike a stroke victim), left neglect, loss of left field of vision, and learning issues (similar to Tramatic Brain Injury victims).  Throw in a world-wide foundation my husband and I started (www.hemifoundation.org), working full-time, and 3 older wild and crazy boys . . . . well, after she medically settled down and I was able to “relax” my vigilence, I crashed hard.  More of a deep depression and lack of caring for myself.  But after a very long awaited trip to my hometown and family during the holidays, I made the decision that it was time to take care of myself.  It’s only been 2 months but I have lost 15 pounds, sleep better, eat better (cut out that sugar!) and have more energy than I can remember ever having.  And at the end of the day, I have learned some of the same valuable lessons that you have learned and I am grateful.  Through all this, I have watched my daughter blossom dispite every possible obstacle thrown in her path, I have become closer to my family, and have met some amazing people world-wide that provide me with inspiration daily.  I am truly blessed.

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      You tell a touching story Kristi of perseverance and overcoming obstacles. Thank you for sharing such a personal side of yourself and your daughter. We’re blessed to have you in our community.

  • Mcarr001

    Thank Michael for sharing your health challenge with us, what turned my health around was taken high dosage of Vitamin D3, this has been the Sunshine of my life!  I regulary follow Dr Mercola and David Wolf and those two guys sure know what they are talking about.  So, we well,and be happy for you are loved :-)

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Thanks Mcarr. Everybody needs a little more sunshine. I found out I was dangerously low on Vitamin D. Now taking liquid D3 everyday as part of the regimen.

  • Ronald

    Hi Michael,
    thanks for your honest story. I think it’s important to share this kind of stories with the people around you and not only the success stories! But that’s also a scaring thing to do.
    My story is not about medical issues, but about not being succesful in business.
    I have been working on my new website the last month and one of the main questions was: what type of story am I going to write about myself? You know, I have been a business owner for more than ten years now, but the last two years weren’t very succesful. I dindn’t have enough work and started to doubt about myself and my talents. At a certain moment, I decided I had to do something to prevent myself from sinking deeper away, so I started to connect again with my past successes, rereading the comments and testimonials and slowly I felt how the power and energy came back again.
    I have a kind of (digital) diary and one day I started reading an arbitrary page and I found this quote from a friend of mine. She said: ‘You have so many talents. It’s time you’re going to use them. You are a very wise man.’ It hit me between my eyes.
    So I’m back again, like you, older and wiser and ready to do what I have to do
    With love,
    Ronald (from the Netherlands)

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Ronald, I’m grateful for your own confessional too. The setbacks always make our story more interesting, don’t they? Grateful to have you with pushing forward. 

  • http://twitter.com/LarryTenney Larry Tenney

    You have been and remain very generous!  Thank you for sharing your story which will no doubt cause most to pause and consider their own circumstances.  

    On a lighter note, this explains the curious case of the the emails that look as if they’re from you until I open them and the rapportive plug-in for Chrome attaches a woman named Jodi B ‘s profile pic and her @jodib twitter feed to the email I thought was from you!  And here I thought rapportive had malfunctioned!  :)

    We now know the tragic case of Whitney Houston who, with overwhelming success and unfathomable adoration, doubted her singing abilities and beauty. While I’ve got no idea about your singing abilities, you are making a difference in so many lives and you are very generous.  So, “Thank You! Thank You! Thank You!”  And as Abolene, the character played by Viola Davis in The Help says to the children she nurses, “You is good. You is kind. You is important!”  Don’t doubt that. It’s one thing to take a hiatus, or even to dial things back permanently but another thing to be without you! You are a teacher, a mentor and you inspire and impact many more than you’ll ever know. Take care of yourself.

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Thank you Larry. I’m humbled by your kindwords. You is good, you is kind, you is important. I want you to know that I read every email sent to michaelm at getstoried dot com and respond to the vast majority of everyone. It is true, that Jodi, our operations queen, handles many of the logistical/technical questions that come to that inbox. Odd that rapportive shows her and not me.

  • Keith Edmeades – South Africa

    You’re so right Michael – you cannot be all things, to all the people, all the time! Michael Margolis has to learn to see himself, as the most important person in his life; and as the one he needs to LEARN to nurture most! Because if he fails to adopt that paradigm, WE will all be at risk of not having him around, in the best of form, when we need him most!   Learning to say “NO” when necessary, is the key!

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      So true Keith. Self-care is often a shadow issue for helpers, healers, advocates, and anyone bent on a mission…Definitely facing mine in the mirror. LOL

  • Keith Edmeades – South Africa

    Hello Michael! Thank you for sharing this debilitating experience with us all. In response to your request, for us to share similar physical setbacks we have experienced, I at the age of 16, while at boarding school way out in the country, suddenly became completely delirious, to the point of being incapable of making any sense at all, uttering only strings of nonsensical statements and making perplexing observations about the things and people around me. The local doctor and dorm matron were as perplexed by my condition as everybody else. I was rushed off to hospital, where the doctors there were equally perplexed. After the first week, in a single ward, I apparently came to my senses and by the end of the  second week, by which time the school term had ended, I was taken home apparently now quite normal. And to this day, this syndrome has never been medically diagnosed and thankfully for me, that condition has never reoccurred.   

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Wow Keith. Our bodies sometimes talk in mysterious ways. Your story is a great reminder that we all have these moments, and there’s no shame in hiding them. thanks for commenting!

  • Kellie Townsend

    Wow, you are really speaking directly to me.  Boundaries, Structure, Containment. Self-honesty & self-care. Support. All the things I am working on creating, out of absolute necessity, as the work keeps getting more intense!
    I’m definitely down for the geeking on health stuff. I have hormonal depression that comes on very quickly.  Better than it used to be, but still, I can be fine one day and the next day be thinking that my life is pointless and I should just…yeah.  And, of course, it’s so related to my level of business success because the feelings are so intense that I’m likely to give up on things that I have already expended a lot of energy on!  This is actually the first time I have seen you or your site, but I feel your kind vibe, and I appreciate your fresh, meaningful take on marketing.

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Hey Kellie, thanks for welcoming my intimate share, considering we’ve just met. It appears many of us are dealing with similar issues these days, so I’m grateful to share what’s been a struggle, and what’s working for me. 

  • Frank

    Michael,  Thanks for sharing your story.  What resonated for me was the need to focus on what is really important to you.  If you have time to share your regimen i am certainly interested.  I haven’t quite had what you had but I certainly go through periodic deep phases of burn out due to seeing opportunity.  Glad you are back in the conversation!

    I’ve been watching “The Wire” via Netflix DVD slowly over time and now I am in the last season. Some might say it’s the best show on TV (it was on HBO). One of the characters was really messing up and was told, “look, you might think that these people will be there at your funeral but you will be lucky if you get just a few people.  The people you work with, the people at the bar, they won’t even know your last name.  Family and a few friends will be there.  That’s it.”  – not an exact quote of course but the timing was right for me to personally hear the message.  Not to say that no one here cares about you, because people do.  You have changed lives. 

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Hey Frank, we all have choices to make don’t we. The Wire is full of life lessons. Thanks for sharing yours here as well. 

  • http://www.facebook.com/dastillman Daniel Stillman

    Michael, glad you’re back on track with your health! I got the flu days after getting laid off last October – my body reeling from the mental blow…and it has taken me months to get back to feeling 100%. I think I was pulling from my deep reserves for years…and have just now realized I have to have balance – and put energy back into my reserves. And that means saying no to more things. And yes to the right things! Critical path…that is so true. I hope we can reconnect in this new year!

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Daniel! Thanks for leaving your comment. Our health is precious. I too really want to hang again soon. 

  • http://www.bethrobinson.me/ Beth Robinson

    Glad you’re feeling better. While I haven’t been through something similar, I can definitely relate to a unexpected situation creating a need for important choices. Just for me it was a couple unexpected job losses and the subsequent gains and the situations those created.

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Beth, you’ve got such a great attitude! Adversity is our ally.

  • Anastasia

    Hi Micheal,
    Congrats on taking those first intimidating steps back to a place of health and balance. They are usually tge hardest to take (until we land ‘flat on our asses’) I landed with a hard thud when my seizure disorder (epilepsy) ramped up to well over twenty seizures a day. An energy crisis indeed! I have lived with Epilepsy since the age of two, but invested a lot of energy into ignoring my bodies requests for boundaries and balance between the yes & no answers in my life.
    With brain surgery & many of tge available drugs under my belt to no avail I came crawling to my yoga mat. It was here that I was educated on the amazing benefits of stillness – it seems to help with the shiny object syndrom. I now offer Reiki-restorative sessions to others who are also trying to find a new place of balance in their lives.
    Thank you for sharing your story. Health challenges have been integral to my journey & it is inspiring to see someone offering their place of vulnerability with such candor & courage.
    Wishing you ease & effortless efficiency along your path to greater health.

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Anastasia – I’m so grateful for your comment, and to know that you are finding your path of healing. I appreciate your reminder of stillness.

  • http://www.facebook.com/drrawson DR Rawson

    Michael,
    Clearly you understand the power of focused transparency.

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Thanks DR

  • Diana Epstein

    I am so thankful to my wonderful daughter-in-law Alicia. She sent me your info about you because I have something she wants to help me conquer. You talk about food being helpful in a curing way. I don’t understand how to break down the elements in some of the foods I am eating. My e-mail is ladydiana05@optonline.net. My name is diana. Thanks for your time……

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Hi Diana, I strongly encourage you go gluten-free, corn-free, sugar-free paleo diet. I also eat a low “free-glutamate” diet which removes neurotoxins from the blood when immune system is already compromised. A friend with a stroke recovered in less than 6 months by following this diet. I’ll share more on this in my full health overview. 

  • Jeff

    Thanks for sharing Mike. I want to find out more about your health regiment because I have been having struggles of my own lately. Not feeling healthy, low energy, not sleeping well, etc. So glad to hear you are on the path to success. 

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      will def include sleep aids in the regimen overview

  • http://restoryinglife.com/ joe at restoryinglife.com

    Your post was recommended to me by a mutual friend (Parrott). I’m liking what I see.

    First off, I’d love to hear more about your regimen. One of the next phases in my journey is going to be a more intentional look at my health, so checking out what various folks are doing is key for me right now.

    As for my story and hitting the wall, well, it happened literally as I was slammed up against it by 4 cops who were putting handcuffs on me. At the time, I was married and a pastor … and I’d just been caught in a prostitution sting. That was 15 months ago.

    Since that ugly night, a major focus on my life has been understanding my backstory. What on earth would prompt a guy who looked like he had it all to risk everything, not for sex, but just to experience the illusion of being desired? Why did everything I’d done to deal with smaller manifestations of the same issue not work? What does health look like? It’s been quite a journey.

    So, what are some of my outcomes?First, I’ve found the most important people in my life … namely, those who stuck with me and surrounded me when I had nothing to offer (and those who’ve since came along side me afterwards, even though I was a pariah).

    Second, I’ve begun to discover what health looks like at all levels of life … emotional, relational, spiritual, and physical. I’ve been pressing into that and watching shame, aloneness, and the dysfunction they breed loosen their grip on my life. 

    Third, as I’ve been honest about what happened, others, the unknown walking wounded, have started to come to me and offered their stories. Together, we’ve started sorting out how to move forward … taking a story of broken ugliness and working to bring something beautiful out of it.

    Thanks again for your post. I’m looking forward to reading more.

  • http://www.sexyaftercancer.com/ Barbara

    Hi Michael, Just watched your vid and am very happy to hear that you’re on the mend, and that the lessons learned are all supporting your transformation on ALL levels!  :-)
    It’s been a long strange trip and I’ve loved how we’ve woven our stories together for several years now, especially as we both bring our genius to the world. It’s been a pleasure to support you, and I’m not totally surprised that you crashed so hard. I think this is a big part of what you’re bringing forth — how to be big in the world, and stay anchored and balanced physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
    My personal wake-up call happened 23 years ago when I got an “out of the blue” breast cancer diagnosis. It totally rocked my world. During the initial treatments, I asked myself if I had a year to live, would I keep doing what I was doing. The answer was a resounding, “No way!” So I began to make changes in every area of my life, from my diet to my spiritual practice to who I spent time with to what work I did. The underlying question I asked when checking things out was, “Does this feed my soul and leave the world better?”
    The journey has been filled with adventures, setbacks, challenges, heart breaks — it’s been an e-ticket ride.
    And now, after all this time, my truly great work is emerging, and it comes directly from this cancer experience. It’s called Sexy After Cancer, and it’s all about how breast cancer impacts femininity, intimacy, sensuality, sexuality and relationships. By mining the gold and the darker stuff from my story and history, I’ve discovered a completely under-served and very large market. It’s about being willing to share at that deep and vulnerable level what it’s really like, what I’ve learned and researched, and allowed to come to me, and be used as a vehicle for this gold to come to the world, that this breakthrough work is being born.
    You have been a big part of this emergence and I’m so grateful to you for all the ways you’ve stood with me, had my back, let me have your back, asked questions, given bold feedback and enormous encouragement. Thank you, my friend!
    Out of this has come a book which will be released later this month, a new website, a series of retreats, research, all the different ways to reach as many people as possible who can benefit from this work and service.
    I was thinking about you last night as I nibbled on some medicinal dark chocolate! And here we are today…
    Rock on, Michael!
    So much love and gratitude!
    xx

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Barbara, you always have such great perspective on things. Especially when it comes to dark chocolate. ;-) thank you. XOX

  • WhatsYourStory

    Yeah Michael!  I’m glad for your journey of discovery and would love to hear more.  Yes, definitely! 

    Myself included, recently I needed to learn balance of giving to others and myself at the same time so I deveoped health issues to anchor in the lesson. 

    More recently:  I also learned the simple lesson of water [h20]:  8oz/day! 

    (NOT: [tea or coffee] + [sodas or juice]… just plain ‘ol h2o.  Apparently most of us are walking around in a semi-dehydrated state).

    My Biggest Lesson:  8oz of water a day, keeps dis-ease away!

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      the water of life. a great reminder. Thanks, WhatsYourStory.

  • http://twitter.com/lahara Loralee Hutton

     Hey Michael, Thanks for sharing your story about CF/FM. I had my first big burnout & was diagnosed with CF at 19 years old. Classic type A girl here. By 25 I hit the wall 2 more times & then the official diagnosis of FM (when it still was considered a psychological issue – love that stigma…lol) and once again I’m back here now. That familiar place where the body begs me to slow down, change pace & listen to what’s really going on in life. So I listened. And I rented a yurt in the forest, near a small waterfall on an island (west coast of Canada) – with highspeed internet so I don’t feel too disconnected. I’ve been here allowing myself to unravel here & who knows. Maybe it won’t take 4 months to recover this time. Best wishes to you on your journey!  Thanks for letting me share a bit of mine here with you too.  ~ Loralee

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Loralee, thank you for sharing your own story with CF/FM. Hugging trees is definitely the right solution. :-)

  • Suchinta

    Michael: Sorry you were so sick, and glad that you’re back in gear, and telling stories.  The best  part of the story is what you learned about yourself in the process. That’s the whole point of experience, including illness – to learn and to heal ourselves.  So yeah….welcome back!  I’d love to know about how you picked yourself up from being sick and tired. As you know healing stories are the best. As much as we can story ourselves into illness, we can story ourselves into wellness.  Lots of love, and much gratitude for your sharing your healing story.

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Bless you Suchinta! Your words of wisdom inspire as always. 

  • Valerie

     First, I hope you are feeling much better and second, I’m glad the lessons are flowing for you, old friend.

    I too discovered a health condition (about 3 years ago) due to persistent symptoms.  Fortunately I was diagnosed right way; In short, I’m soooo much better.  What has been incredible is how much I have learned: deeper gratitude, appreciation for what is important and sticking with important matter and to be more present to as much as I can.  There is more, yet these are so crucial to me. 

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Thanks Valerie. It’s great to hear from you. And grateful to hear of your health recovery and deeper learning. I’m working on those lessons as we speak. ;-)

  • Nik Dee

    Hey Mike, thanks for the videos – i like – & look forward to summit. Good to hear your on the mend. Funny how things work. Personally I wasn’t sure I was going to make it through 2011 but talking of sunshine, meeting your positive appearence in SF Storyworld gave a little tan back to a vulnerable soul. Bless mate and keep rocking. – Nik Dee

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Nik, we are kindred spirits, and your muselike creative storyteller soul is a gift to us all. Grateful to be on the journey together.

  • http://twitter.com/carolepyke carolepyke

    Hi Michael, thank you so much for sharing. Something about listening to you that has helped me give myself permission to be ‘vulnerable’ and share the story of where I am at and what got me here and the lessons I have learnt in the process. Watch this space for my first video :-)
    Love and light! 

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Carole, I’m ever grateful to be received as such, and excited to see more of you soon.

  • Shannon

    Michael, thank you. I am happy you are doing well now. Apparently, you are a faster learner than me.
      I have a long story, followed by another long story which brings me to this: my husband left. I don’t mean that we had problems and he and I decided to break apart, I mean that I went away for the weekend and when I came back, he was gone. It seemed completely out of the blue. There wasn’t another woman nor was there an addiction issue like drugs or gambling. He simply didn’t want to be married anymore so he packed up his bags and left. As of today, I do not know exactly where he is.
      I was devastated. I went around and around thinking about what I could have done differently. How I must have been so horrible that he couldn’t stand it one more minute. That all of the things I had done in our marriage that I thought were the right things (not doing comedy on stage any more, taking in his not-really-trying to recover alcoholic/addict/mentally ill brother, helping his mother through cancer treatments) were stupidly naive when I consider myself to be an intelligent woman. I seriously doubted my intellect, my judgement, and my ability to love.
      Literally the day after he left, I had a job interview where I work for a management position. Since I felt I had nothing to lose, I walked in like I owned the place and laid out everything I was going to do to rock the place. This was very good for the interview (I got the job), but very bad for executing my vision. Overnight, I had become hard on the outside. I was working 60 -70 hours a week. I was getting the job done, but I certainly wasn’t making any friends and I sure as hell didn’t have a social life.
      It wasn’t until my sister (and if you knew her, you would understand how unlike her this is) told me I needed to see a shrink. Asking for help was waaaaay out of my comfort zone, but coming from her, when it did, forced my hand. I went and was immediately filled with the regret and pain that I had failed to experience, but it was the only way through. This story ends with me getting my head straight and reuniting with someone I knew many years ago. We have been together two years now, and life just keeps getting better.
      The thing is, I am 48 years old. I have been viewing my life as not changeable. I used to be audacious and crazy and fun. That is my internal story and how I have viewed myself – even through “the concrete years”  and even though I’m pretty sure that’s exactly how the people I have known in the past 10 years would not have described me at all. But a serious health scare of my own (two blood clots in my lungs) last year forced me to look at my story and try to figure out how, with everything that has happened, I can write a new one.      
      Today I have a meeting at a local college. I may be entering school in the fall. Or I may try to expand my hobby beekeeping to a job that pays the bills. Or I may do something I just can’t see right now.  The point is that age is just a number and I have work to do. Not frenzied, hide-from-the-world work, but personal work that will take some daring, some sacrifice and a risk of my core being. Thank you for the courage to do that. I am looking forward to the reinvention summit.
    Good health and peace to you.

    • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

      Shannon - 

      I too used to have blood clots (in my twenties) and discovered nattokinase supplement as an effective way to prevent future ones. But you can only take it if you are off the other blood thinners (e.g. coumadin, etc…). 

      Bless you for your courage and forthrightness. You inspire us all. I can’t wait to see what emerges next for you. 

      Michael

      • http://www.getstoried.com/ Michael Margolis

        P.S. Thanks for rockin’ the sumerian avatar. Is that Ishtar? Love it. 

        • Shannon

           It is actually the Bee Goddess of Rhodes Bronze Age icon. I have so much respect for my bees – all bees, actually – so I chose this as my badge for awhile.

  • Bryan Alexander

    Wow, Michael.  A very impressive – and story-ish – sharing from some distressing, intimate experience.
    My wife went through Lyme disease treatment for several years, which was horrendous.  

  • Deb Sturgess

    Your description of your exhaustion from walking 20 steps vividly describes my experiences with 24 years of recurring severe depression. If you’re like me, you had internalized the lesson equating someone who claimed to be unable to get out of bed with someone too lazy to do their work. Thank you for sharing your journey from the wall back into the world. It’s hard to share such an intensely personal story, but you can see from the comments you have opened a conversation that will transform lives.

    In fact, you’ve already made a difference in mine. Recently, I noticed my depression worsening, accompanied by head-to-toe muscle pain. I rationalized every symptom into insignificance. Then I realized how my life had been overtaken by pain and fatigue. A few weeks ago, I walked 3 miles a day pushing my grandson in his stroller and felt energized at the end of it. A week ago, I lay on the floor beside him while he played, hardly able to lift my head. Getting out of bed every morning was agony, yet lying in bed was equally painful. Thanks in part to your story, I motivated myself to make a doctor’s appointment. Treatment begins today for fibromyalgia. Your post about your health regimen will be invaluable.

  • Lisa McGrath

    Glad you are feeling bettter. Always have loved the lenses you look through.

  • Susan

    Curious about what helped your illness. I have fibromyalgia (not chronic fatigue syndrome), so I’m always looking for effective self-care methods. All the best to you!

  • http://twitter.com/eileen53 Aprille Byam

    I came back to this post as I build a presentation about stories of illness that heal. As I watched again, I thought of a story I thought you’d appreciate.  I got this from @queenofspain:disqus , it’s about Lupus, but the same issue of having to choose what you can do:
    http://www.blogher.com/frame.php?url=http://www.butyoudontlooksick.com/articles/written-by-christine/the-spoon-theory-written-by-christine-miserandino/

  • Mrim Boutla

    Un dicton bien vaudois pour commencer – Le travail c’est la santé, ne pas en faire trop c’est la conserver!

    So sorry to hear about your health Michael, but happy to hear that you have found a treatment and new rhythm that works for you…

    Times when I hit the wall – It’s a little like the scene in ‘Jaws’ where Quint and the others show their scars – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dLjNzwEULG8&feature=relmfu

    Sophomore year in college… I had to pay my own way through college and I didn’t have enough to pay for my next year, had sent over 100 letters to foundations and internships to try and line up more money for the summer/next year… On top of that it was exam reading period, high stress little sleep, steamroller feelings at an all time high… Turning point?  A simple question do I just stop doing this or do I go to out with a bang, do as well as possible in these exams and see how I can make it work for the next year?  I focused on what mattered most (getting the highest possible grades at my exams), and on the last day of the exams, I received an job offer for the summer that would enable me to pay for my next year.

    Like you, pushing too far for too long, I got pericarditis, which is very similar to what you are describing in terms of symptoms, but is due to an inflammation of the tissue around one’s heart.  Most often pericarditis is observed in people over 60, I was 25 years old when it happened to me, great reminder to focus on what’s important!

    Finishing up my dissertation – Oh gosh still haven’t recovered from that one :)…

    Building More Than Money Careers – Still a work in progress!

    What I have learned and try to practice as much as possible:
    Time is my most precious commodity, for each new request, I really take the time to think about how important this is to me – So yes, connecting with you and sharing old scars is that important to me :)…
    What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger (I hope)
    It’s all about the impact over energy ratio!

    I hope these will bring you energy and solace when needed Michael, you are doing tremendously important work, and the world needs you, please stay healthy :)!

    Mrim